Do you love food? I think most people would answer “yes” to this question. But, do you know how to cook? This, may not be a simple question to answer, at least for some people. Nowadays, most people (especially young professionals and students with busy schedules) would prefer to eat-out instead of cooking at home, because it takes time to go grocery shopping, and it takes more time to cook. Today’s blog is about cooking, and its relation with people; and a little bit about my own experience with cooking.
I want to begin by introduce you to a cookbook: Cooking in Heels, a memoir cookbook by Ceyenne Doroshow. Doroshow began her book by telling a bit of her life story, and how she got into cooking. Doroshow is a male to female transgender woman. Growing up and being transgender, Doroshow faced a lot of challenges and harsh reality of being transgender, even inside her own home and with her parents; she didn’t have a good relationship with her father, because of her transgender identity. However, Doroshow started learning how to cook at a very young age (influenced by her grandmother), and part of the reason for that was that she used cooking as a way to express the femininity side of her (because it’s more typical for women to do the cooking at home than men). And, the other part, was to help-out in the house, feed herself and her brother when their parents weren’t home, or bringing food to the table before her parents return home from work, and it helped her mother a lot. Gradually, cooking also kind of slowly brought Doroshow’s relationship with her father one step closer.
Cooking in Heels was written while Doroshow was serving her time in prison for a prostitution conviction, and of course to kill time, since there isn’t much one could do when he/she is in prison any way. However, another part of the reason that she wrote books like this cookbook was to advocate for her transgender identity as well as for other trans- people. Here is a link to the Q and A with Cooking In Heels and with Ceyenne Doroshow: https://bitchmedia.org/post/kichen-sister-a-qa-with-cooking-in-heels-author-ceyenne-doroshow.
When I first read that Ceyenne Doroshow learned how to cook at a very young age, I couldn’t help but feeling a bit guilty. Honestly, I don’t know when it’s the appropriate age to start learning how to cook, but I didn’t start until I moved away from home in university. When I left home, I needed to learn how to cook to feed myself. At first, one of the easiest meals I ever made was noodle soup, because it’s quick and simple. Even though I never learned how to cook from anyone, not even from my mom, but I did watch her cook, and therefore, I kind of knew the basics of cooking. However, because I was only watching but never physically did the cooking, when I was physically doing it, it was such a struggle, and I was very clumsy!
Of course, everything takes time and practice, but it does gets better each time, especially if you do it more often. I’ll say, from many years of exploring and experimenting on cooking all by myself, I can now call myself a confident cook. And what’s more, I found joy in cooking; and of course, good food always taste better!
By: The Invisible Vision Project