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Happy New Year!!! It’s finally 2019! I hope y’all have had a good holiday season. Now, it’s back to work time, and also, time to write the first blog of the year! Typically, the first blog of the year is somewhat a New Year’s Resolutions type of blog for many bloggers. However, this blog will not be the typical and formal New Year’s Resolutions blog but, it’s a more casual one about what I’m hoping to achieve, change and do for 2019, the list is not a long one but, it’s a good one, I think.
So here it goes:
Be Kind and Gentle to Myself
If you know me well, you probably know that I’m usually kind and gentle to other people, and I’m also fairly “open and flexible.” But, I’m not like that when it comes to treating myself. If I’m really honest, I’m neither kind or gentle to myself, I’m rather harsh to myself. This is normal because, I’m sure there’re people out there that are the same way. But, for the new year ahead, I’m hoping to change that, and it’s really for my own good. Being harsh on oneself can be good sometimes, because it pushes you further, to do things you think you can’t achieve. But, being unreasonably pushing oneself could only do more harm than good. Therefore, I will learn to be more kind and gentle to myself.
Learning to say ‘no’
Learning to say ‘no’ to someone or to something is what I’ve starting to learn in the recent years of my life. I used to think, if I said ‘no’ to someone, people might never come back to ask me for help anymore or, they might think I’m unreliable. But, I was wrong about that. Learning to say ‘no’ is often not easy, at least this is true for me. When someone asks me to do something, I usually think that they think of me, and they think I’m reliable therefore, they ask me for help or for ideas. And, if I said ‘no,’ to the person, I might break that reliable bound or trust. But, this is not always true all the time. And, it’s important to recognize my own ability as well, and what’s more, it’s OK and important to say ‘no’ rather than to make a lie and say ‘yes’ to someone. That’s not only unhelpful to the person asking for help but, it’s also unhelpful to yourself. For people that are considerate and understanding, I’m sure they’d want me to be honest with them and with myself than to create more hardship on myself.
Letting Go of People and Things
Letting go hasn’t been easy for me, for many years. The reason is because I have attachment problems, which means: I get easily attached to material things and to people. But, I’m sure we’ve all heard of the phrase: “if you love someone, let them go.” It’s really easier said than done. Another reason why I have attachment issues to begin with, is probably because, I’ve once lost someone really dearly to me in my life, and I think, it’s since that time, I became more fearful of loss and became more attached to people and to things. But, for the new year and ahead, I want to try and learn to let go, little by little. I know that the progress will be a slow one but, I’m hopeful that one day, I’ll be more comfortable and natural with letting go, of people and, of things.
Read More Books
I love reading a good book, provided if and when I have the time to do so. Sadly, in the past year, I haven’t had any chance to read for leisure at all. In the new year, and once I’m out of school, I’m hopeful that I’ll have more leisure time to read books that I’ll actually enjoy. Also, if you have any recommendation on any good reads, please let me know in the comments so I can check them out!
Taking My Work to the Next Level
Taking my work to the next level is not only a new year’s resolution, it’s a long term goal and dream of mine. I’ve been working as a Disability Activist and a Public Speaker for nearly 3 years, I created The Invisible Vision Project in March, 2016. Since then, together with this work, I’ve grown so much, especially as a person. I found true love and passion for doing this work. But, this work is not a traditional type of work and, it doesn’t have to be a traditional type of work, not really. At least, I’m hoping to take this work into the next level: a more professional level. And hopefully, I can have more growth with it. I know, this will also be a slow process and I’m patient enough to wait for that moment. In doing this work, I’m not looking for fame, I’m only looking for purpose: as I see it gives me so much meaning that allowed me to meet so many amazing people. Any progress I can achieve in the next year and beyond and, no matter how small or big the progress it is, it’s all worth celebrating!
There you have it, my very informal and (I think) realistic New Year’s Resolutions for 2019! I’m interested to hear from you: What are your new year’s goals? Or, what are you hoping to do this year and beyond? Leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Thank you for reading to the end.
By: The Invisible Vision Project